People often wonder how I have been able to achieve in
so many areas of my life.
First as a swimmer. Then as a wrestler. Then as a personal
fitness trainer. Then as a martial artist. And then as a
writer, entrepreneur, speaker, etcetera.
Those who wonder would also like to know how they can
have the same sort of results in their lives.
Well, the formula for success is quite simple – yet no matter
how simple – only 3% of the population will do it – regardless
of all the evidence and proof given throughout the ages by
the most successful men and women who have ever lived.
Why would such a small percentage follow the formula. Is it
that they want to live lives of quiet desperation.
I don’t think so.
I think the reason so few follow the formula is because they
would rather conform to the norm than be the unique person
they were created to be.
Conformity is the curse of mankind. Find out what the masses
are doing, then follow them.
But the masses don’t have the answers – on virtually any
subject under heaven.
I’ve made it a point to follow WINNERS and ignore losers.
I don’t take advice from people who are not winning in the
game of life. I don’t take advice from people who know less
than I do on a subject.
If I want to become a champion athlete – I find the champion
coach. I don’t find the coach who knows less than I do – I find
the guy who knows more.
On the internet, I don’t work with people who don’t know anything
about it. If I want a webpage built, I get the best guy to do it for
In short, I surround myself with people I can learn from. And
when I’m around them, I am remarkably quiet. I realize that
I have four holes in my head that absorb information – and one
in which to give it.
I believe that people who want to be successful could accelerate
the process tremendously if they’d shut up and listen. And by
listening I mean opening your eyes and your ears – closing your
mouth and absorbing all you can.
This is a fairly simple procedure – yet you’d be surprised how many
people won’t follow it.
As a coach, mentor, speaker and so on – I am paid to give advice.
I get paid by the thought. And I put my thoughts into both written
and spoken form.
But when the time ticker shuts off – you’d be astounded if you saw
how little I say. People are often stunned to discover that the person
they viewed as a “loudmouth” is often remarkably quiet and reserved.
Yes, I do talk to others. Yes, sometimes I talk too much – but more
often than not – I’m listening, asking questions and taking mental –
and/or written notes while someone is speaking.
Yes, I have goals I want to achieve – but one of them is NOT showing
people how smart or clever or educated I am. I have no desire to prove
what I know – how much I know – or anything of the sort. I do have the
desire to help others grow with the knowledge I have – but ONLY if they
ask for it or want it. Someone could spend weeks with me – and if they
don’t ask me any questions, it’s quite likely I won’t give them any
My wife often tells me that I’m more Chinese than the Chinese. I take
that as a compliment. And she means it as one.
I spend time each day reading the thoughts of other great men who
passed this way before – as well as listening to what they have to say.
And as you know, Dr. Maxwell Maltz is a personal favorite. Yesterday
I sent you a link where you could listen to a video clip of him for
no charge. Today I’m sending it to you again. And when you listen to
him – really really listen. Turn off the buffers. Turn off the “I know this
and I know that” filters. Turn off the “Notice how he does this or does
Be still and listen. And as you listen – take notes. Then do what he
asks you to do.
NOW and see what the giant passed on to us.
P.S. I’m also having a big special on my Stay-at-Home Internet Millyunair
to check on it.